Maggie Ming
Published: June 20, 2006
Summer lovin’ had me a blast
Summer lovin’, happened so fast</i>
Finally! Summer is here. You are going to the beach and partying more. The only problem is that you don’t have anyone to share it all with. Fear not! There is hope!
There is a subtle art too wooing the one you want. Ashley Postell, a Psychology major, defined wooing as “flirting, sweeping someone off their feet” while Jeanie Ming, a continuing education student, defined it as “to romance.” Neither of these definitions is incorrect.
The American Heritage Dictionary has four different definitions of “Wooing” or “Woo.” The first is the most widely know definition: “To seek the affection of with intent to romance.” It is also defined as “To court a woman.” No matter what the definition, wooing is what each person thinks it is.
In today’s society there really isn’t time for romance. It is the “Slam-Bam-Thank-You-Ma’am” era.
“People just don’t take the time to really get to know each other anymore,” Postell said.
Postell is correct in this observation. Forget national isolationism, we are living in personal isolationism. We are afraid to go out on a limb and roll the dice between love and rejection and heartache.
Listen up ladies and gents! Love is worth the risk! No one is meant to live life alone. Take a chance! Say hello to that girl/guy you’re digging on and let the powers that be take you for a ride. And if it doesn’t work out get back up and try again.
<i><center>I set out on a narrow way many years ago
Hoping I would find true love along the broken road
But I got lost a time or two
Wiped my brow and kept pushing through
I couldn’t see how every sign pointed straight to you
Every long lost dream led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you</i>
Rascal Flatts “Bless the Broken Road”<center>
Wooing isn’t an exact science. Is there really a time and a place that are best for wooing the one you want? Ming said that any place that romance can be introduced is the place for you to woo the one you love. So we hear that any place is a good place to woo. What about time?
Postell said wooing is appropriate at “any time, as long as it doesn’t interfere with work, school, or other people’s marriages” and many people agree with this. As long as the mood and feel are there then you can make any time and any place the setting to get your woo on.
If you are new to the wooing game, here are a few tips from others who have played the game.
Maggie’s Tips
1. You should always be yourself. Trying to play at being what you aren’t will come out badly for you in the end.
2. Compliments are always good but only if they are sincere. Insincerity will not win you any favor with your amore.
3. Well educated surprises (educated as in knowing what the other person likes and doesn’t) and unexpected acts will definitely get your honey in a happy mood. If you make a bad choice and offend him/her . . . apologize immediately. Do not complain about it.
Tips from Ashley Postell
1. Be creative. Everything doesn’t have to be so cut and dry.
2. Write your lover poetry or draw a portrait.
3. Cook dinner for them. It is perceived much better than just telling him or her how much you want to hop in the sack with them
Tips from Jeanie Ming
1. Take your time
2. Be patient
3. Be thoughtful and considerate of the person you are trying to attract
Give those tips a try as well as watching how your friends woo the ones they love.
So, if the lack of lovin’ this summer has you bummed out, just take that leap of faith and get your woo on. Just remember that sincerity will always win out over just looking for some booty action.
Good Luck and Happy Wooing.